You probably don't recognize Enietra Washington's name. But if you're black, a woman, and an American, you should.
This little story is about how she wound up in a car with serial killer, Lonnie Franklin Jr.
But before we get to that, let's look at some related situations
PART I
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DO YOU REMEMBER THIS FACE?
This is from a video that went quasi-viral
This is from a video that went quasi-viral
in black social media circles in 2015
This young black woman, a girl really, was walking through a mall, minding her own business when a couple of black men tried to talk to her. Her own cell phone video starts after she has already said "hello" to one of them. Talking to her friend, she says she regrets saying anything to one of them because now he's following her.
"Can I get your name?" one of them asks more than one.
Clearly, the one that's actually following her around the mall is deaf, dumb, and stupid if he can't see her and her friend speed walking to get away from him. One of the men she decides not to give her time to? He quietly, but nastily calls her rude. But at least he goes away immediately.
Cellphone Selfie Girl's Video
What is ten times more interesting than the video itself are the comments that black men and black women have made on this young woman's behavior.
The first thing this woman says in this version of the video is "I'm scared" Yet, over and over again, black men and black WOMEN made it sound like this young woman
1) had no right to be filming herself - "she thinks SHE'S CUTE" being the accusation
2) that she OWED HIM a smile, owed him her time, and owed him a positive response to his trying to pick her up, if only for a little while.
In the comments, the girl is called conceited and rude over and over. And one guy actually says he'd have punched her.
LINKS TO VIDEO AGAIN AND COMMENTS at BOUGIE BLACK GIRL
https://www.facebook.com/BougieBlackGirl/videos/829948743708807/
PART II
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This second story is just a news story about Janese Talton-Jackson. I hope you remember her. She's dead.
She didn't get the memo on black women owing black men their time and a smile. Jackson failed to respond positively to a black man's advances in a bar, and he killed her for it.
http://www.vibe.com/2016/01/janese-talton-jackson-shot-killed-pittsburgh/
PART II
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This is Enietra Washington. The video below is an interview she did. She is the only known survivor of the "Grim Sleeper."
Wanna know how this serial killer convinced her to get her in his car?
When she said "no," that she did not want to take him up on his offer to give her a lift to where she was going, he stopped his car, got out and then he accused her of being the kind of uppity, rude. Then he told her she was the typical black woman that doesn't give black men the time of day.
She bought it.
She got in.
He shot her.
Then he raped her.
(And yes, that was the order of events)
Original Source of video
http://ktla.com/2016/05/05/only-known-survivor-of-grim-sleeper-serial-killer-describes-her-ordeal/
Let's do a quick recap
The men she rejected go away angry
(She with harsh joking MUST EXPLAIN her "no" with a real or fake vicious boyfriend)
Janese Talton-Jackson - "No"
She is killed by the man she rejected.
Enietra Washington - "Yes" She winds up getting into a car with a Serial Killer because she felt guilty about rejecting a Black Man AFTER she said, "No"
I am not trying to draw your attention to the insane murderers.What I am trying to draw your attention to are the comments, the comment-ers on the first video.
More than half of the black people who watched that first video clearly believed that young woman owed men who try to pick her up her time and a smile at the very least. If you see that first video in various spots on social media, you'll see comments that indicate that large portions of the entire black community see that black girl as evidence of "what is wrong with black women"
A very, very large section of the black community (male and female) does not see black women as valuable, as people who speak words that should be respected. Black women are seen as owing black men.
White men see white women as owing them too. The Stanford Rapist's father with his "20 minutes of action" comment is not unique. But what's different in the black community is that black men are seen as both more important than black women and also as suffering from racism more. As though sexism and misogyny do not exist, black women are expected to just automatically talk to any black man who graciously decides to speak to her.
She is expected to be nice for 1 minute, 2 minutes, or 5 minutes and give a man her name if he asks for it. And the thing that gets me is this: If she's seen talking to him and smiles nicely "like she's supposed to," if he rapes her later, she'll be explaining to the police why she was "flirting with him."
Black men don't understand consent, boundaries, and equality any better than white men do. But here is what they do understand: They how to make us feel guilty for having an opinion about what we want to do, when, and with who.
The Grim Sleeper, Lonnie Franklin Jr., played Enietra Washington and it almost cost her everything, her life.
Janese Talton-Jackson either never had a chance or she didn't play the game by "talking nice" to her murderer until he felt rejected gently enough to go home peacefully.
Cell-phone selfie girl? She's the only one that played the game correctly, apparently. She's the only one not raped, not shot, and alive to tell us how it's done.
So this is the society we live in now. Cellphone Selfie Girl's video is an instruction manual on how to get away from an aggressive stalker-flirt who thinks he's owed something. This is what we have to teach our girls for now. But I'm wondering when we're going to start teaching our boys what consent is -- at all levels, even at the street harassment level. I don't think most men understand how many of us have wondered if we were about to go the way of Janese Talton-Jackson decades before we ever heard her name
Her Name Was Janese Talton-Jackson and She Was Killed Because She Said No
A pretty good story by a man with a 2 month old daughterhttp://www.theroot.com/articles/culture/2016/01/her_name_was_janese_talton_jackson_and_she_was_killed_because_she_said_no/
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