STREET HARASSMENT, DEATH, AND NEEDING FEMINIST BLACK FATHERS

FROM BOUGIE BLACK GIRL

See Part 1 "HANDLING STREET HARASSMENT [correctly] IS A LIFE AND DEATH SITUATION



MORE OF THE SEXIST AND VIOLENT COMMENTS ON THIS YOUNG GIRL'S CELLPHONE SELFIE VIDEO - from Bougie Black Girl

http://bougieblackgirl.com/if-the-video-of-a-black-woman-rejecting-a-black-man-made-you-mad-youre-wrong-and-heres-why-nsfw-video/



This young black woman was considered, by 60% or more of those making comments, to be unimportant and also lucky to be seen, wanted, and desired by a black man.

Her short rejection of him, her refusal to give black men her name, was seen as rude by 60 to 75% everywhere I saw this video when it came out near April 2015. 

She was lucky that she decided to be "rude" in exactly the right way because sexism and misgynoir that is ever present in the black community. And sometimes that sexism and misogyny kills.

The two mentally deranged killers in the earlier post represent .01% of our population. But the comment-ers on the Cellphone Selfie Girl's video probably represent 60% if we're lucky.


If those sexist, misogynistic comment-ers are representative, the 60 to 75% of black men and women are planting sexist, misogynistic, rape culture seeds in half or more of the black boys being raised to black men, right now. 

The three part post
on Enietra Washington
was about the black-male-version
male superiority

The three part post 
Enietra Washington

was about hotep-ess-try 

at its absolute worst

The three part post 
on Enietra Washington
is about rape culture,

black community style 

Do not think for one minute that black women are safer from black men than white women are from white men. Do not let all the hype around the Stanford rapist fool you.


That cellphone selfie video is from April 2015 as far as I can tell. 
Her first words in the video are, "I'm scared. I'm too friendly. I shouldn't have spoken to him."

Yet black response to her cellphone video 
is critical of HER 
and not 
the young man 
who practically demands her name. 

This shows how strong sexism, misogyny, and rape culture is in the black community just like as black defense of Bill Cosby did.

I'd be surprised if there are 5 women in the United States who haven't gone through what the young girl in the cell phone video went through at some point in their life. When it's happening to you, you think to yourself, 

'Oh, there's nothing to be afraid of, he's just annoying'

But you're scared.

You're thinking nothing happened the other 99 times a guy kinda stalked me.

But you're scared. 

He won't go away. And entitled fool is an angry fool.  And  60% to 75% apparently thinks a black man is entitled to a positive response to "Can I get your name?" from a black woman.

A woman winds up wondering, 'How angry will he get? How much danger will I be in if I don't let him know I'm flattered but not interested in exactly the right tone?'

Some think maybe a woman should just be nice for as long as it takes, and he'll go away happy soon enough. But now we'll be able to remember what happened to Enietra Washington  

Maybe you, or the girl child you're raising to a woman,  won't get into a car with a strange man no matter what kind of racial blackmail he throws up.

But maybe you'll be at a bar like Janese Talton-Jackson. Maybe Jackson did the nice approach at first?  Maybe she said "Hello" and was polite for a while... until he wouldn't move on. Maybe he thought he had a chance with Janese for a minute -- BECAUSE she talked to him; then got angry when he found out he was wrong; then decided to follow her and shoot her dead because he felt led on. 

To every one of the people who still do not get how the three situations experienced by Cell Phone Selfie Girl, Janese Talton-Jackson, and Enietra Washington overlap, I hope you think, re-think, then think again because YOU are the problem in our communities. 


Nobody gets to sit this problem out.

I remember how scared I used to get when I'd see a man (a boy really) start to swell up with anger at being rejected. Eventually I got to feel lucky that "rude" and "stuck up" were the only things hurled at me because I could tell some of them wanted to hit me -- just like that one guy commented at Bougie Black Girl. 

It's 2016. Our boys need to be raised differently. We need feminist fathers to raise boys to be feminist fathers who raise feminist girls and feminist boys.

We need men that understand that sexism, misogyny, intraracial entitlement, and rape culture aren't going to go away by themselves any more than white racism, white privilege and rape culture are going to go away by themselves for white people.

We have to do better by our boys so we can do a hell of a lot better by our girls.