From A Predominantly White Site Called
THE GOOD MEN PROJECT
A classic example occurred in a workshop I was co-leading. A black man who was struggling to express a point referred to himself as stupid. My co-facilitator, a black woman, gently countered that he was not stupid but that society would have him believe that he was. As she was explaining the power of internalized racism, a white woman interrupted with, “What he was trying to say was…” When my co-facilitator pointed out that the white woman had reinforced the racist idea that she could best speak for a black man, the woman erupted in tears. The training came to a complete halt as most of the room rushed to comfort her and angrily accuse the black facilitator of unfairness (even though participants were there to learn how racism works, how dare the facilitator point out an example of how racism works!) Meanwhile, the black man who was the victim of her micro-aggression was left alone to watch.
There's a really good list of the many ways white men display white fragility and derail in depth conversations on race sans tears at the link.
Read More: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/white-womens-tears-and-the-men-who-love-them-twlm/
I'd love to see this same subject revisited by black men