Tuesday, February 14, 2017


by bell hooks

Genuine love is rarely an emotional space
 where needs are instantly gratified. 
To know love 
we have to invest time and commitment
…dreaming that love will save us, 
solve all our problems 
or provide a steady state of bliss or security
only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, 
undermining the real power of the love, 
which is to transform us. 

Afro Art - Jean Pierre-Louis

Many people want love to function like a drug,
giving them an immediate and sustained high. 
They want to do nothing, 
just passively receive the good feeling...

Giving generously in romantic relationships, 
and in all other bonds, 
means recognizing when 
the other person needs our attention. 
Attention is an important resource.”
― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

Afro Art - Pierre Jean-Louis

“Individuals who want to believe 
that there is no fulfillment in love, 
that true love does not exist, 
cling to these assumptions 
this despair 
is actually easier to face 
the reality that love is a real fact of life 
but is absent from their lives.”

― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

I actually saw that this was the text being used for a sociology class at CSUDH.  I loved this book. I will read it again one day.