GABRIELLE UNION AS NATE PARKER'S KEVLAR VEST

"Nate Parker, however, seems to want to somehow un-save himself. Despite countless attempts to help him remove his own foot from his own mouth — and even actually successfully doing it for lack a week — he seems hellbent on placing it back in there and keeping it there for perpetuity. Like he likes the taste of size 12 Timberland and can’t get enough of it....

Below is a small list of people who have either allowed Nate to explain himself ....

1. Fans of Nate Parker
2. Classmates of Nate Parker at Penn State
3. People who’ve seen Birth of a Nation and believe it’s an important movie that needs to be seen
4. People who haven’t yet seen Birth of a Nation, but wish to and recognize that it’s an important movie that needs to be seen
5. The homie Britni Danielle at EBONY6. Jesse Williams, in a way
7. Fox Searchlight
8. Gabrielle Union, who, by sharing her poignant and powerful words about her own experience with sexual assault, has practically made herself Nate Parker’s kevlar vest

http://verysmartbrothas.com/support-birth-of-a-nation-or-not-but-just-know-that-nate-parker-is-probably-peak-fuckboy/

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from September 2016
Of course they asked Gabrielle Union for her opinion on her co-stars rape trial. Of course, people wanted to know. I wanted to know, especially since she identifies herself as a feminist.

But I was very disappointed. I didn't like Unions answer. I thought it weak and more than a little cowardly despite the fact that I'm not sure I could have done that much better.As thoroughly disgusted as I've been with Nate Parker, I'm still trying to put myself in Unions's place.

I'm trying to imagine what it's like to have known some for a year or more, have them be pleasant to you wind up thinking he's a good guy or a good enough guy --average in his sexism like most men--- before finding out about a rape trial. 

Then you read about your co-worker in court documents and think...what? What do you think?  No matter how you read the court documents or what you think the legal definition of rape should be,what he did was reprehensible. 

And then he says he never thought about what he did to that woman again? How does a Christian repent if he doesn't think about how he's harmed other people? How does that work exactly?  What church is he going to? The church of me, myself, and I? The church of ONLY BLACK MEN MATTER?

How does a rape survivor wrap her mind around this and say a thing that's even half way like a defense? I don't get it.

Maybe if I knew him personally, like Union does,  I wouldn't have so instantly drawn the conclusion that inviting other men to rape your unconscious date makes you a rapist yourself.

Maybe.

Maybe Union has an excuse for essentially saying, "Well...we don't know what happened. We weren't there." Maybe she was stuck having to protect the movie she's attached to for professional reasons. Or maybe she's just not that bright.

I still remember how long it took for Phylicia Rashad to reluctantly some forward to defend Bill Cosby when he's probably responsible for 80% of her current wealth. She doubled back with a quickness when people came for her head. But I could tell she didn't want to say anything the first time.

It can't be easy to look at a black man, respect him personally, and respect his work, then find out he is foulness itself. Black women are conditioned from birth to think black men have it harder than black women, conditioned to coddle them too. Regardless of all that maybe a loyal person's mind can't move that distance from friend to foul but so quickly.  

Still, I'd like to think I could jump that hurdle of calling myself "judgmental" and/or "petty"to try to make a new estimation of my friend, acquaintance, or co-worker if I saw evidence that made me pretty sure he's a rapist.

I don't know. Maybe I shouldn't look at Union's defense of Parker too hard.

Maybe...

Unlike Union, I suppose, I saw problems with Parker before I heard the rape accusations.

http://thankherforsurviving.blogspot.com/2016/02/nate-parker-chris-rock-and-fourth-wave.html

But this problem of black men seeing black men as the only black people with white racism problems is hardly unique to Nate Parker and his defenders.

That's why I wonder if, for black actresses, working with a lot of black men is just like working with white people. 

As a black person, you wear the mask and ignore white racism while you're at the white dominated office. Maybe a black woman wears a different mask and ignores the black sexism while at the black male dominated movie set.

I guess I'll never know.

 But I  actually recoiled when Union said she plays a rape victim who doesn't speak in  The Birth Of A Nation.

Now, no two feminists have to be alike. But she allowed herself to be used as a piece of background that motivates the real hero of the story? And she's not playing the usual black-female-background to the real story either --wife or mother who pats the black male hero on the back and says "go get em" then is never seen again. No, Union is playing a raped piece of background for the story to launch from.

To me her character, the rape victim herself, not being valued enough to speak sounds like Nate Parker's Nat Turner has a female possession in the form of a wife that he must avenge rather than wife as person

--just like 95% of all rape victims 

portrayed in male created movies
where the woman is NOT one of the main characters. 

In the male created movies where the male hero is the central character and his girl or his wife is raped, it is the male hero who is REALLY damaged. I've watched entire movies where the male hero is out avenge the weeping raped wife who doesn't care about herself but wants her husband/boyfriend not to get hurt on her trifling behalf. 

I hope black female body as doormat/launch pad is not what's in this movie. But I don't know how Union's character could be anything else if she doesn't speak --especially if this rape that never happened in real life was made up by Nate Parker and Jean Celestin.  

And even more important than the
potential e-race-sure of black women
from pro-active blackness
in a historical movie
is the fact that rapist
is creating the image of a rape victim. 

I can't imagine that a person that refuses to understand what rape is can possibly create anything but a stereotypical, trembling virginal rape victim. It is unlikely that people like Parker can think any other type of woman CAN be raped.

So now I'm wondering if the black women in his movie stiff-upper-lip it after being raped, if they go on as the stereotypical strong, praying, black woman slave usually does or if his rape victims stands around tearful but strong, waiting around to be avenged as is more usual for white-woman damsel-in distress character.

It's likely that there are only a few ways a silent rape victim being played by an actress of Gabriel Union's stature, who has her own TV series, can be portrayed by a man like the unrepentant Nate Parker .

Again, I'm pretty sure one cannot create art that deviates very much from who you are. 

White people have proven this to us again and again that you can't create art/fiction/movies that deviate much from you are. 

For example: When white people create movies about black characters you get movies like The Blind Side, Black and White. Both movies are mixtures of white savior complex and the idea that white racism is a slight misunderstanding. Both of these white fairy tales that are a hellacious mess compared to black people make movies about themselves like  "12 Years A Slave,  Selma, Do The Right Thing, Devil In A Blue Dress, Eve's Bayou, Hollywood Shuffle"    

And when a man who has raped but doesn't think of himself as a rapist (because he probably doesn't believe ho-s can be raped and says "You put yourself in that position" and "We ran a train on _____".) makes a movie, why wouldn't he create a rape victim with virginal image draped in white who doesn't need to speak?

The pristine-good-girl rape victim is the backdrop against which the black male hero can shine and Make Black America Great Again sans any black female agency.

Again, no two feminists have to be alike. But I don't understand how Union allowed herself to be used in this way.  Even if she'd never heard about the rape trial, why would she think it important to play a non-speaking, pristine looking rape victim that just reinforces a stereotype that only "good girls" can be raped? Why would she let him pour gasoline on that idea even she'd never heard of his rape trial?

And if the depictions of black women are as ridiculous as one reviewer has said, why didn't her reading of the rest of the script let her know to stay away from The Birth Of A Nation?  I mean, she read the whole script right? She said she read 700 pages of the trial transcript because she was a rape victim herself. Yet all she came up with when talking about Parker was the equivalent of "Well....we weren't there so we don't know what happened."

Weak answer

Cowardly

Maybe her career depended upon her helping her studio or a studio she might need in the future not losing all 17.5 million dollars they invested in Nate Parker. Again, maybe I wouldn't have done much better.

Maybe.

But I'm still annoyed.

In any case, there are other black folks you can see at the movies. I can recommend two movies.

1) Westerns don't come along every day. And Denzel Washington is in damn near every scene. (He's getting like Tom Cruise that way). So go see THE MAGNIFICENT SEVEN. It's not problem free by any stretch... But it was entertaining. 

THE QUEEN OF KATWE had some adult themes. But I would think a kid above 12 or 13 could handle it.  Women of color made, this is a true Disney film. It's one of those David and Goliath films. I loved it. Lupita Nyongo stars in it along side, Madina Nalwanga, a new little girl actress I hope we're going to see more of.



PEOPLE KEEP ASKING IF WE CAN SEPARATE THE ART FROM THE ARTIST

BUT BIRTH OF A NATION  PROVES THAT IS NOT THE RIGHT QUESTION
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"You want me to be a tragic backdrop

so you can appear to be illuminated,

so that people can say

"wow isn't he so terribly brave

to love a girl who is so obviously sad?"

You think I'll be the dark sky

so you can be the star?

I'll swallow you whole"

~Warsan Shire

'

A couple of weeks back, I wrote an entire piece on Gabrielle Union's wobbly defense of Nate Parker. But Parker has been putting his foot in his own mouth so often and so fast, I haven't had a chance to really arrange the 10 million thoughts I have on some black women, even some black feminists like Union, automatically defending black men that are indefensible.

However, the main reason I held back on saying anything about Union is because I though it irresponsible to write about the content of "Birth Of A Nation" a movie I hadn't even seen based on one sentence in Gabriel Union's defense of Nate Parker. Yet, I was able to write what I wrote a few weeks before the movie came out because I felt it was pretty easy to guess how Parker would use black women and the rape scene he inserted into his movie. When a man sees black woman as a stereotype instead of real, it's just not that hard.  And now that I've read a couple of reviews, it's pretty clear that I guessed right.

And I guessed right because most people can't really create art that is very far from who they are. 

It was this one sentence that Gabrielle Union wrote about her part in the movie that made me pretty sure that Parker wasn't capable of imagining a three dimensional black woman with agency, much less a rape victim.


Union said,

"I took this role because I related to the experience. I also wanted to give a voice to my character, who remains silent throughout the film."

It was this one sentence of Union's made me remember a piece of a poem by Warsan Shire, quoted above. 


It was this one sentence of Union's that made me remember the countless number of television shows and movies where a man's wife or girlfriend is raped, where it's made to appear that this man's possession is raped and ruined for him, that the male hero's pain is the only pain that matters.  When patriarchy gives birth to rape culture and the rules are told in a story format, these are the stories you get -- stories very similar to The Birth Of A Nation


from USA TODAY 
by someone who HAS seen the movie

How 'Birth of a Nation' mishandles its portrayal of rape

The Birth of a Nation depicts two rapes.

In the first, Nat’s wife Cherry Ann (Aja Naomi King) is cornered by a group of slave catchers. Just a few scenes later, a white guest of Nat’s master Samuel (Armie Hammer) “requests” Esther, a slave played byGabrielle Union.

Neither of these rapes is shown onscreen. Cherry is cornered by her attackers, but the scene cuts away before they touch her. We see her bruised and swollen face later, when Nat goes to visit her sickbed. In the case of Esther, the attack takes place inside a house while the camera stays outside it. The shot lingers on the face of Esther’s husband Hark (Colman Domingo) during her assault. His pain and trauma are the focal point of the scene — Esther is merely a set piece. When she emerges, hurt and crying, she does not speak. He speaks. He speaks in that scene and much more later, when, as a result of what happened to Esther, he joins Nat’s rebellion.

At Nation’s bombastic Sundance premiere, Parker described most films dealing with American slaveryas "desperately sanitized." He said there was an ongoing "resistance to dealing with this material."

http://www.usatoday.com/story/life/movies/2016/10/07/birth-of-a-nation-nate-parker-rape-gabrielle-union/91694398/

When I read that Union is silent in this movie, I went from 95% to 99% sure that Nate Parker was incapable of doing anything but what he did.  

In story form, Parker showed us once more that rape and rape accusations are seen as what one man does to another -- as if the women are just collateral damage in a social war between men. This happens in real life, too. Men do actually see the raping another man's woman as harming that man, as taking away the other man's manhood by proving he can't "take care of his woman." That's why men have gone to war and raped the women of the conquered country so consistently throughout history. 

One of the reasons white men consistently raped black women in the United States during slavery and afterward when black women worked primarily as domestics through 1950s(?) was a declaration of white men conquering black men. The lynching of black men by white men was often based on the rape of a white woman that didn't exist --and I'm not JUST saying the black male rapes of white females didn't happen a lot of time. I'm saying the white woman didn't even exist. I'm saying that who rapes, who gets raped, and who winds up in jail for rape is a game where toxic masculinity and racism mix.  

Rape Accusation: A GAME BEST PLAYED BETWEEN MEN

http://thankherforsurviving.blogspot.com/2016/08/rape-accusation-game-played-best.html

People keep asking if we can separate the art from the artist. That's the question you ask when you want people to go see the movie and television shows of Nate Parker, Matt Damon, Bill Cosby, and Johnny Depp despite crime or ethical violation X. But that's not the right question.

The right question is this: Can the artist create art that is separate from himself.

And I think the answer should be a clear, "No!" 80% of the time, especially if that person is an author, producer, or director.

Think about it. What percentage of white people have successfully created black characters in books, television, and movies? My guesstimate is less than 10 to 15%. White people, as part of the dominant culture, can successfully ignore everything about race, racial perspective, the fact that they have a racial perspective, black  people and black life until they decide to make a movie at 30, 35, or 45 years of age with a black person in it. 

Black and brown people don't have the option to be blind to white people and to the effects of race. In fact, black and brown people have to have a nuanced vision of white people and how they see themselves to even successfully complete school, college, or just get a job. 

And when I think of black characters badly formed and presented as the more ridiculous stereotypes, I'm not talking about something as far back as Amos and Andy  or Sapphire. I'm talking about movies that are a lot more recent like Sandra Bullock's The Blind Side and Kevin Costner's Black and White.  

If white supremacy soaked white people make movies where they minimize the damage white racism does and/or make themselves the heroes in relation to black people what makes you think the rapist-minded sexist male is going to do anything different when he depicts women?

And when you let a rape-minded (or white supremacy minded) artist 

reproduce his vision of black women (or black people), 

as something less than three-dimensional people with agency, 

as possessions rather than persons 

that are just backdrop 

against which the black man (or white person) can shine 

then you let that artist's values 

be presented as normal and acceptable to the general public, 

some of whom are influenced by this art.

That's unacceptable.

How is it even possible that anybody could believe 

that something different could come from a man
that wants to claim 

that the new nuanced definitions of the word "consent"
and the technical definitions of "rape"
is/was so confusing 

that he did not understand 

now or at 19 years of age 

that 

(1) putting his penis into a person that doesn't not want it there OR
(2) putting his penis into a person who is likely to be very angry about you having put your penis inside them as soon as she is sober  

--much less inviting others to do so-- 

is a heinous act

no matter what word you put on it?
There is about as much point debating the meaning of the words "consent" and "rape" and when they came to be defined or redefined as there is debating how racist white people were NOT in the 1700 to 1800 when they were enslaving, torturing, and genocide-ing blacks and First Nations people just because the word "racism" wasn't fully minted until 1879 to 1932.

Racists know what they are no matter what word you put on it when. They weren't "confused." They were simply evil as h*ll. Rapists aren't confused either.


Unlike Gabrielle Union, I do not think ending rape or reducing rape is a matter of education. I think it's a matter of instilling empathy (if that's even possible) combined with a making sure there is long and life-destroying punishment for rape.

This tends to mean that I think Cory Batey (black) got the right punishment at 15 to 20 years while Brock Turner (white) and Austin Wilkerson (white) did not, 3 months and 0 months respectively. Some black men want to complain about how Cory Batey's sentence was not fair. But it was fair. Batey's sentence was the sentence that's right. So all I can say to them about the comparison of Cory Batey to Brock Turner is too bad for for the white community and hurray for the black community.  

Women's lives will matter when 90% men of men guilty of rape go to jail for rape for 15 to 20 years instead of more than 90% never even seeing the inside of a police station. And Black Lives will matter when very similar conditions occur. When cops guilty of murder go to jail for rape for 15 to 20 years instead of more than 90% never even seriously being questioned, cops claiming to be scared because they somebody with dark skin was chewing their gum too loudly will cease.  

At this point, no matter how many people go to see Parker's film and support him, I am glad that so many black people have stood up and said "No!" to Nate Parker. This wouldn't have happened a few years back. That's why Parker is shocked and behaving so badly. 

He expected sympathy for what he went through after having gotten away with bypassing a woman's consent for years(?) 

Parker did not count on the fact that black women have long recognized the phrases like...

"You put yourself in that position" 

and 

"We ran a train on _________" *  

as marking the rapist as a rapist. 

He did not count on these phrases marking a man 

as easily as 

the use of the word "n*gger" marks the racist as a racist. 

The thing that's different now is that black feminists have a stronger voice. We can protest loud enough to be heard by black male run social media by white-dominated main stream media.

Once more, the right question is this: Can the artist remove what he is from the art he creates? And I have explained my answer. It is pretty much a resounding "H*ll No!"


However,  Bill Cosby might be a quasi-exception in that he created Claire Huxtable, pretty much a feminist, despite being what he is. And, I may have to allow that an actor may not be a creator of art of much as the paint an artist like the producer/director uses. Still, there are a few actors that make my stomach churn so much that I can't stand to see them in anything. (I don't want them to have my money anyway. So, it all balances out.)

As previously discussed, white people have not been able to remove their distorted and bizarrely uninformed views of race (due to being racially isolated)** from what they create upwards of 85% of the time when making books, television, and movies about black people.  But, I've only just recently realized just how much black female colorism Bill Cosby has injected into the all of the United States and especially into the black community through the The Cosby Show and A Different World because he couldn't separate himself and his values from his art. 

And now we know that Nate Parker didn't being separate what he is from being the writer, the director, and the star of "Birth Of A Nation" either. His attitudes toward rape, his own rape trial, how lightly he appears to have taken Celestin's initial conviction for rape, and the manner in which Parker inserted rapes that didn't happen into what's supposed to be a historical movie show that the artist spreads his values through his art. 

* - most often code for gang rape that's not seen as a gang rape because rape culture says ho-s can't be raped

**- most articles on the re-segregation of America back to 1968 levels focus on POCs not being able to get into more affluent school districts thus getting a better education. But what you should do is look for articles that look at how sooo very many white children being racially isolated thru age 18 (at school and at home) makes predominantly white schools a breeding ground for fertilizing and continuing white ignorance on race and therefore white racism.
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THE GABRIELLE UNION POST WITHHELD
from September 2016 to be posted tomorrow

WHEN THE TOXIC MASCULINITY BROKE: THE EXPOSURE OF NATE PARKER AND JEAN CELESTIN

Before we get to Nate Parker, let's talk about the article below which describes how how toxic masculinity  can get "good men" to circle the wagons around other men who have done questionable or even morally reprehensible things


DOCUMENTARY ON AMERICAN MASCULINITY
There's a documentary on Netflix that talks about American Masculinity called "The Mask You Live In"  Among many other things this documentary men talk about how Toxic Masculinity says you never rat out your brothers. I think we've all seen demonstrations of this in person. But on a white television show called "How I Met Your Mother" this behavior had a name called "The Bro Code" And one of the things "The Bro Code" called for was never telling a woman that your male buddy was running a con job on her of sorts. Young men, boys really, have been adhering to this "Bro Code," whatever they choose to name it, for decades.

There are variations on this "Bro Code" that have nothing to do with picking women up at the bar etc. There were been a number of black gangster movies in 1980s and 1990s that showed young men proving they were men to other men by keeping their silence about things quasi or very illegal.  One of the methods by which some men keep other men silent is by insinuating that a man is less masculine for letting something bother him in an emotional way, enough to report activity X,  to begin with.   

This form of emotional blackmail seems to be effective with young men trying to prove they are indeed men within toxic masculinity whether a man is  black, latino, white, poor, middle class, or rich. Just one symptom of toxic masculinity, this fear of being isolated from other men, the fear of not being seen as a real man to other men can make a lot of "good men" close ranks around just about anything. 

I didn't really appreciate how men are able to convince themselves to *not tell* or *not break ranks* even after they are 30, 40 and 50 years old until I read about the inexplicable silence of the white men that protected a white man because he was an important part of a university's winning football record.  Of course we can say these men at Penn State were more worried about losing their jobs than the children Sandusky was raping. But Penn State and the Jerry Sandusky case is still a good example of how American Toxic Masculinity makes men close ranks against everyone else.

When Sandusky's story first became public friend of mine created a list that showed that more than a dozen grown white men knew what Sandusky was, a predator that preys on young boys. His male co-workers knew what he was doing. 

One man even walked in on Sandusky in the shower with a child. Sandusky claimed he and a young boy were just "playing" while naked in the shower. This witness appeared to be saying he walked into the shower in the first place because he heard some grunting noises that didn't make sense.  Yet this witness and bunch of others didn't report Sandusky to the police.  Some did report Sandusky to other school officials. But all of them together just let these offenses drop. They did not repeat their concerns to the police.  And in 2016, I found an article that says even more grown folk knew that Sandusky was preying on young boys.

You'll have to read article after article after article on the witnesses who didn't come forward until they were exposed. But after you read them you should should start to get an idea of just how afraid men are of the opinions of one another. That lack of willingness to jump over ones boss and leave the University to go to the police is NOT just about fear of losing ones job. That's just the excuse these men used when they looked in the mirror so they could sleep at night.

Toxic Masculinity binds men to one another in some ugly ways. And most women of a certain age, if they've been paying attention, have seen their male classmates in college, male cousins, and brothers link arms around some heinous crap.

This is probably why so many black women are practically growling whenever Nate Parker or his defenders say things they recognize like, "You put yourself in that position" or "We ran a train on ______"  

But in Nate Parker's case the Toxic Masculinity broke down.

NATE PARKER'S CASE  
One of the two black men Nate Parker invited to have sex with his unconscious date broke down and told the truth when the police came calling. But Tamerlane Kangas didn't break down in the moment of the rape. Kangas refused to participate in the rape and even warned Celestin not to go in to that room with Parker and that unconscious female freshman. But Kangas did not have enough empathy for that 18 year old girl to report what Parker and Celestin were doing to her in the moment or even the next day. Police, the court, law enforcement had to go looking for him.

When youthful naiveté, alcohol, and toxic masculinity collide, there are no winners, only losers. In the Parker case, one of his roommates confessed in court that Parker asked him to join in the sex assault with an obviously sedated woman who was slipping in and out of consciousness. He left the scene of the woman’s assault because he believed it was “wrong.” 

After fleeing, the other roommate did not report Parker and Celestin to authorities even after he confessed his displeasure about how the victim was treated by his roommates. His behavior illustrates what toxic masculinity does to men. It renders them unwilling to view women as full human beings. It silences otherwise intelligent beings into mute witnesses to perversion. Toxic masculinity creates the landscape for men who were “alleged” to have raped a woman, and later found guilty of rape (Celestin), to not stop their abuse and intimidation of their victim.

Penn State–home of Jerry Sandusky, who was found guilty of molesting scores of young boys and men— protected student-athletes like Parker whose role there helped the reputation and financial status of the school. Sports and athletes mattered at the university. Rape culture was something leftist academics and feminists discussed; it was not a term understood and embraced by most Americans in 1999.

~African American History Intellectual Society 

I don't believe in never ending consent.  So I don't believe Parker's date having oral sex with him means he didn't rape her X days later. If you do, that's a rape culture problem you have if you don't think new consent was necessary X days later. But we'll let that go for now. Forget the one-on-one sex between Parker and his date because we don't know what happened when while she was still upright, walking and talking.

The action that constitutes rape 

is inviting other men to have sex (rape) 

a woman that's unconscious. 

Again, that's the same as 

you hiring a hit man to murder someone.

I don't know why Parker has not been asked the right questions in the right order, not even one time during one interview I've seen so far. Nobody asks him about inviting people into the room

The other thing I wonder about is how the rapist minded person depicts a woman that's been raped in a historical movie when that rape didn't really occur. Don't you?  

Read More:

Nate Parker, Rape Culture, And Toxic Masculinity

http://www.aaihs.org/nate-parker-rape-culture-and-toxic-masculinity/

FANNIE LOU HAMER

Feeling Rebloggy

Mrs. Fannie Lou Hamer was born on this day, October 6th,  in 1917 in Montgomery County, Mississippi. The story of Mrs. Hamer and the Mississippi Freedom Democratic Party (MFDP) should be central to any study of U.S. history. Hamer and thousands more Mississippians took one of the boldest moves ever in U.S. history to fight for a democratic process in national elections.

~ZinnedProject.org

Fannie Lou Hamer was nearly beaten to death so black people  could exercise their right to vote.

Read More
http://zinnedproject.org/2015/10/fannie-lou-hamer-was-born/

Read Her Biography Here:
http://www.biography.com/people/fannie-lou-hamer-205625

NATE PARKER SEEKS "ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN" AUTHOR FOR SUPPORT

Yeah...

Well...

Nate Parker is back on the Chitlin' Circuit.





Background:  When he was promoting his movie, he went to white run outlets like "Deadline.com" When Nate Parker tried to slip his rape trial under the radar, he used a white run media outlet then too. When people did not react with sympathy to his being "falsely accused" like he wanted, he did an O.J and ran not to BET TV but to Ebony Magazine instead.

And now that his arrogance has gotten himself in trouble again --nearly crying for himself on 60 Minutes and again when interviewed by Robin Roberts-- he's run to another black person to interview him.

He ran to "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man" Steve Harvey, the black man most likely to agree that drunk ho-s cannot be raped because...they're drunk ho-s.

It's amazing to watch misogynists shoot themselves in the foot in a way very parallel to racists. When you don't know you are foul inside, you just don't know....I guess. 

[Nate Parker] went on to criticize news outlets for what he saw as biased coverage of the trial, asking, "Are we in the business of headlines or are we in the business of healing? ... I can get upset with the media and be mad, or I can say what can come out of this that can be productive."

Harvey chimed in, stating that he thought it was "a bit unfair" that the tragic suicide of Parker's accuser was immediately tied to an event that happened 13 years prior, and that the blame had subsequently fallen on Parker. "If you are a black man in this country, and you get accused of raping a white woman, your chances of walking out of that courtroom is slim to none," he said.

http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/nate-parker-steve-harvey-interview-935373  

Clearly Harvey hasn't been paying attention to black rape culture.

Black men do walk away from rape. Cosby walked away from raping white women.  Parker's convicted-of-rape partner, Jean Celestin, walked away from raping a white woman after a successful appeal.

And a few black football players have walked away from raping white women... right up UNTIL they retired, like Darren Sharper did,  and were no longer making tons of money per month for their white male team owner. 

Black men get away with raping white women when white men decide it's beneficial for white men. And when black men are playing sports professionally or at college, black men are white male protected.

And both of these "men" know that.


Parker also said it was good that the negative publicity brought issue of "rape" to the forefront --- a word which Parker still doesn't understand.

EBONY.com: Yes to, like, hanging out? Or yes to, like, sex?Nate Parker: If I can be just honest about it....Back then, when I was young and we were out being dogs it was about is she down? You think she down?

EBONY.com: Was that a question you would actually pose to her?Nate Parker: No.

EBONY.com: So it was kinda like an assumption you were working on?Nate Parker: Back then, it felt like…I’ll say this: at 19, if a woman said no, no meant no. If she didn’t say anything and she was open, and she was down, it was like how far can I go? If I touch her breast and she’s down for me to touch her breast, cool. If I touch her lower, and she’s down and she’s not stopping me, cool. I’m going to kiss her or whatever. It was simply if a woman said no or pushed you away that was non-consent.

Read more at EBONY http://www.ebony.com/entertainment-culture/nate-parker-rape-charges-consent#ixzz4MFJ6E27j  

And the unwritten Cosby-context here is this: If you can get her drunk enough that she cannot give you an explicit "no" then dawgs like Parker felt like they were good to go.

Only problem is that's called "rape" 

This is exactly why Parker said to his victim, "You put yourself in that situation." 

Yeah. I know men used to joke about dropping things in women's drinks, actually do it, then "rape her" without it being called rape. But it was still called "foul." So these men inside and outside of colleges were not as naive as Parker would have you believe.

White racists knew they hated/felt superior to black people  before the word "racist" was coined. And rapists knew they were dead wrong for putting their penis inside a woman that didn't want it there before the definition of "rape" has become as explicit as it is now.

And you know how I know these men know that they are dead wrong? I know that because college dawgs like Parker would be very careful not to pull this she-never-explicitly-said-the-word-no on a college girl with brothers or male cousins likely to literally Parker and his ilk dead for "taking advantage" or their sister or cousin.

Rapists have always known what they are.  

Read More: 

RAPE ACCUSATION: A GAME BEST PLAYED BETWEEN MENhttp://thankherforsurviving.blogspot.com/2016/08/rape-accusation-game-played-best.html

WHILE MY GUITAR GENTLY WEEPS - SANTANA, YO-YO MA, and INDIA ARIE

***Music***

I look at you all

See the love there that's sleeping

While my guitar gently weeps

I look at the floor

And I see it needs sweeping

Still my guitar gently weeps

I don't know why nobody told you

How to unfold your love

I don't know how someone controlled you

They bought and so-old you

I look at the world

And I notice it's turning

While my guitar gently weeps

(With) every mistake

We must surely be learning

Still my guitar gently weeps

Yeah

I don't know how you were diverted

You were perverted too

I don't know how you were inverted

No-one alerted you

I look at you all

See the love there that's sleeping

While my guitar gently weeps

Look at you all

Still my guitar gently weeps

Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh

Oh

NATE PARKER POST: MY SISTER WAS RAPED 60 DAYS AFTER HER 18th BIRTHDAY...

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My sister was raped 60 days after her 18th birthday. She was a freshman at Penn State University. The defendants charged in the case, Nate Parker and Jean Celestin, were on the wrestling team and had the power of the Penn State Athletic Department behind them.

She was harassed and hounded, and ended up dropping out. She had just aged out of the foster care system, so it was a big deal for her to go to college. She had a chance at a brand new life, but that was stolen from her.

Two years later, she went through the ordeal of testifying. She endured cross-examination by two high-priced lawyers who attacked her character and her background. Ultimately Parker was acquitted. Celestin was found guilty, but the [latter] case was later overturned on appeal...

She went through every option she possibly could for justice, and she got none...

~Variety.com

Headline

Nate Parker’s ‘Birth of a Nation’ Exploits My Sister All Over Again

Read More: http://variety.com/2016/film/news/nate-parker-birth-of-a-nation-rape-claims-sister-penn-state-1201874004/ 

WHY I AM A MALE FEMINIST

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I wanted to do something to make him stop raging against my mother. In those moments, I felt powerless because I was too small to confront my father. I learned early that he had an unfair advantage because of his gender. His size, strength and power intimidated my mother. I never saw my father hit her, but I did witness how injurious his verbal jabs could be when they landed on my mom's psyche....

One morning, after my father yelled at my mom during an argument, she and I stood in the bathroom together, alone, getting ready for the day ahead of us. The tension in the house was as thick as a cloud of dark smoke. I could tell that my mother was upset. "I love you, Ma, but I just wish that you had a little more spunk when you argue with Daddy," I said, low enough so my father couldn't hear me. She looked at me, rubbed my back and forced a smile.

The f-word turns off a lot of men (insert snarky comment about man-hating feminazis here) -- and black women too. But I think you should read more on why black men should be embracing the "f" word at this point. 



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"Why I Am a Male Feminist"


http://www.theroot.com/views/why-i-am-male-feminist

FEMINISM OFF TRACK

Groups with less power do what they always do the same thing to get more power: They ape the group with the most power--copying the good, the bad, and the ugly for better or worse. And there is always a lot of "worse" being copied when you do this. Yet blacks did it with whites.

And in the early days of feminism, women feminists did it with men. They tried to become equal by becoming the same.

When feminists realized their mistake in trying to become second rate men some tried to hold onto old gender roles at the same time. Let's call this the **I can bring home the bacon and fry it up in the pan** phase of feminism of the 1970s.

That is, 'I'm going to go to work as men have traditionally done but I'm going to hold on to my old gender-roles too. Dear Future Husband, Do NOT be afraid! You can keep the mommy-list you always use when looking for a wife. I'm STILL going to do the traditional woman-stuff WHILE I work full time' which includes:

• 70% of the running behind the children,

• 80% the cleaning,

• and the 90% cooking

• SEE! Aint I a STILL 100% woman!

All women got from that line of thinking was burn-out. And then they tried to blame men for it.

The thing is, ORIGINAL feminist goals had men gaining just as much as women. Original feminist goals imagined men focused on the home more and MUCH happier for it.

Men were supposed to be able to let go of their jobs being their identity. Men weren't supposed to be glad NOT to carry the entire financial burden of the family. Men were supposed to share the financial burdens or maintaining a family and stop dropping dead so much earlier than women.

A man was supposed to be able to marry even if he had no-job (just like women did). A man was supposed to be able to stay married to a woman with a higher-paying job (like Barack did) A man was supposed to let go of being THE main provider and be able to be fine with his woman working while he stayed home for a bit if he:

1) wanted to
2) needed to
3) was inspired to change career direction *(just like Barack did).

Men were supposed to be able to let his wife's career take precedence for periods of time. Men were supposed to be happy to spend more time with their children and work less when his woman was working more. Men were supposed to be able to let go of the idea that my-making-the-money-makes-my-decisions-more-important-than-anyone-else's.  
And black men were supposed to commit suicide a lot less often


Things are a lot better than they were in the days of Mary Tyler Moore. Women have careers. Black women have careers and not just jobs they do on the side for a little bit when money is tight. There are still significant gaps in pay, especially in high prestige jobs but women are GETTING those high prestige jobs a lot more often than they use to.

And things are STILL a-changing.

A decade or so ago (for federal employees at least?) Bill Clinton changed the rules of who can stay home with the children when they are first born. I've seen husbands and wives take turns taking time off to stay with their babies.


I don't think we've seen all the positive outcomes of that yet. It hasn't been long enough. But it makes me smile. I imagine hearing men-stories like "yeah I liked my father. I admired him. But I didn't really know who he was," a lot less often.

I'm not sure how we get feminism back on track but I know it's going to take men pulling in the same direction to move us there. Find beautiful male feminists as friends, lovers, and husbands....and create a few. Find male feminist friends to help you talk to your sons AND DAUGHTERS if you don't have husband, father, male S/O to talk to your children.

How the next generation of boys and girls turn out can be ours to shape