I feel it.
Can't you feel it, too?
The change is coming!
It has already happened within groups of black feminists and womanists. But soon, the same change will move through the rest of the black community.
- The first wave will begin with non-feminist black women.
They will demand that black men include them every single time they talk about race and racism and be especially irked -- no IRATE --- when black men do NOT talk about the effect of racism on black women when the women's situation in the same job IS WORSE.
- The wave after that will come from black men with black daughters
These black men will speak on the plight of black men and black women at the same time whenever they speak about race and racism's effect. However, they will not confront their brothers. They will not do clean up on aisle 3 by taking black men who forget black women exist (when talking about racism) to task.
- The third wave will come from black men with black daughters who do feel responsible for checking their boys because they know these fools are raising sons and daughters that might affect his girl children...or worst his boy children.
These black men will become irate and talk about other black men like dogs when they do NOT talk about the effect of racism on black women whenever they talk about racism's effect on black men --especially when the situation for black women IS WORSE than it is for black men
- The fourth wave will come forth from black men who do NOT HAVE CHILDREN but DO realize they have black wives, lovers,girlfriends, sisters, aunties, and female cousins that they care about more than they care about themselves.
These black men will become irate and talk about other black men like dogs when they do NOT talk about the effect of racism on black women in the same job --especially when the situation for black women IS WORSE than it is for black men
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I don't care what Nate has said before or since. But I'd like this to never leave his lips again. White people don't get to whine about the life's unfair pain while not acknowledging white privilege. Black men don't get to whine about e-race-sure unless they talk about black women's e-race-sure too--especially when the black female e-race-sure is worse due to the racism and sexism combined.
Some artifacts of racism really ARE specific to black men. I think? But most things aren't.
Black men going to jail 6x the rate of white men? Okay. Black women are going to jail at a rate of more than 3x the rate of white women. That doesn't give black people --men and women both-- license to ignore what's happening to black women
School to Prison pipeline exists for black boys? Okay. School to Prison Pipeline exists for black girls too. AND I've also read of a school to poverty pipeline exists for girls as well. I don't know if the pipelines for black girls overlap at all, but it's not a completely wild @$$ guess to assume these pipelines add to one another as well depending how and when you do the counting.
Dear Black Men,
Black women hold up half the sky.
Forget the "Queen" crap. We know you're really saying you're going to give us the world on a platter and address us as "Queen" for so long as we as acknowledge you're the one that's really important, the one that's really making all the decisions, and that we don't get to be in charge of jack unless you die. We don't need fake worship. We need respect as if we're more than half of the black population. We need partnership.
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Yes, I again acknowledge that I just had an extended Petty Crocker Moment.
But if it's time to get petty with white women feminists and demand they clean up their own crap then it's waaay past time for petty with black men, especially those that are supposedly pro-black. They remember themselves and forget black women way too often.
This crap irks the hell out of me. Yeah, I know he "just forgot" Black men are always "just forgetting" And a lot of black women follow them in "just forgetting." A lot of black people "just forget" to show up for black women dead at the hands of police in the same numbers they do for black men. They forget so much that the hashtag #SayHerName had to be added back to a black female created movement called #BlackLivesMatter.
I'm petty. And I'm here to stay petty. Stop forgetting black women. If Chris Rock can remember us most times he speaks extensively on race, then other black men can too.