Years ago, I read about Tyrese Gibson (of FAST AND FURIOUS movie fame) helping a black male friend choose a bunch of women for that friend's music video.
They didn't seem to be picking any black women at all. Once these two black "men" had picked a dozen or so, some black women said, "Hey! What about us?"
As I recall Tyrese said something like, We're only picking the most beautiful. "No special favors."
In other words, white and light bright = beautiful. Black women need special favors to be chosnen placed among the most beautiful.
Correction: White and maybe latina = beautiful for Tyrese because I don't think he even chose light-skinned women. I could be wrong as I only saw the chosen women in a photograph taken from some distance. But if any of the women were black, they were that pale.
Tyrese was 10 minutes into his career when he said, 'No special favors.' So, I've pretty much always read him for trash.
The only difference between Tyrese and other black men who talking out of both sides of their mouth, running down black women about their weaves is that Tyrese is ever so slightly dumber.
So there's no reason to listen to any black man on how black women should perform black womanhood. Any man that tries should be looked upon as suspect and told that he needs to check himself.
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